I’ve been doubting myself a lot lately, I’ve been doubting my competence as a mother; as a good mother and its really bothering me.
I feel like I’m doing a lot wrong and I feel as if I’m missing some big secret. I have so many questions for myself, for the universe about this parenting thing..
Like should I have breaks in my day while I’m doing this mommin’ thing? Am I even allowed to have breaks? If I take a break and watch a series for a whole hour or two does that make me a lazy mother? Should I be learning how to cook in my spare time? Am I supposed to be on my feet all day, should I stand ready in case one of my kids need something?
I’m still new to this whole thing, I haven’t been a mother for that long and I know I have a lot to learn still….I’m basically an intern and all these other moms that have been in this business longer than I have are like managers and trainers and when these veteran parents give advice, they basically telling you how its supposed to be done, right? Right?
I’m so confused, I feel like everyone is watching me and what I’m going to do next. At times I feel as if I’m stepping on egg shells and I’m so afraid to make a mistake that I end up freezing and not wanting to do anything and lets remember that I’m talking about raising my kids, MY OWN KIDS! How ridiculous is that? I end up letting others dictate to me because I’m afraid to make a mistake because when I do make one or when I don’t do my mommin’ the right way, I can feel everyone whispering and raising eyebrows or maybe I’m just paranoid…
The problem is that I’m afraid of what other people think and I’m afraid to disappoint other people when what I really should be doing is focusing on my kids.
My mind races every single day because I’m so worried that I’m not doing it right…
I don’t want to be a bad mother. I want to be a supermom!
How long before my internship ends? How long before I feel like a confident mother?
Will I ever?
Maybe in the end all that matters is that my kids still smile at me when they look at me or hug me when they are sad.
I think right now, that’s all that matters.